Being kind and forgiving yourself a little more through separation or divorce is weighty and sometimes an unexpected task now added to your perhaps List of Forgiveness jobs.
However, self-forgiveness does exist in all of our hearts. Why, because we all know that as with self-love, it is a good idea to start with our good selves first. How are we ever going to learn to forgive anyone else, until the blatant blaze of scary rawness within us is soothed, understood, given time and due process to be still and calm?
We have become so very proficient at layering up the proverbial guilt ridden and genius moments of indulgence. Perhaps with unhelpful foods, smoking, drinking, feeling the big resentment, hurt, shame or anger...
We already know that we will not disappoint the fear monkeys who sit on our shoulders waving that cupcake with a knowing nod to our guilt laden scales.
Or the eternally optimistic ego, co-existing quietly and darkly with the head primates during our daylight hours. So why is it so hard to extend love and self-forgiveness to our good, loving and trusting hearts? Why can we not boost our sometimes lonely little battered spirit along its way?
We can begin to understand the difference to our lives, by choosing, one day at a time not to beat ourselves up over the many sometimes, inexplicable life decisions.
So is this the prescriptive daily judgement of being human which should govern our lives? Why do we do it? Can we not just let the baton of self-flagellation be still for just one day, a week or possibly for ever?
Forgiving yourself is one of the most important steps in making peace with your life. Its about understanding you are a wonderfully loving human being. It is all the happiness you can be and your amazing contribution of beautiful energy into the World around you.
It could also be, that once in a while a little cake helps ....