I decided to divorce differently, with kindness no matter what... I did not want my divorce to define the rest of my life...
Sunday, 27 April 2014
How Reiki Helped me Through my Divorce
and separation as many of us will know takes us up to those peaks of stress in the mountain ranges that house the really big
scaries such as death, moving house and life threatening diseases.
It is during these times that we really
need to remember to look after our minds, bodies and spirits. We all know this,
however dealing with and organising self-care, in the big grand scheme of traumatic
relationship breakdowns is sometimes, well just slightly further down the list
of to do’s.
So we forget to help ourselves and that is when our stress levels
ramp up, leaving us existing on, well, not very much.
So I wanted to tell you all about Reiki,
this amazing stress busting tool which helped me, my children and Ex enormously
through our separation and divorce.
Reiki is a form of healing rediscovered
in ancient Tibetan Buddhist texts by a Japanese minister in the late 19th
Century. Pronounced “ray-kee” the term in Japanese means “universal life force
energy”. Rei means universal power and essence and Ki means vital life force
energy and is the equivalent of Chinese Chi or Indian Prana.
I love Reiki, so I completed a Reiki
course in the Middle East about six years ago and I have found Reiki has had a
profound effect on my well-being and health. Reiki rebalances, relaxes and renews
your internal energy system.
It is this sort of help that I needed
when I began my divorce journey over 18 months ago. I had not really hung out
with my Reiki since my training until I rediscovered it one day whilst going
through the very sad and painful process of dividing up our worldly
chattels. This piece of paper literally
fell out of a book and landed at my feet, I picked it up, unfolded it and these
were the words I read:
The 5 Principles of Reiki: Just for today, I will let go of anger
for today, I will let go of worry
I will count my many blessings
I will do my work honestly
I will be kind to every living creature Dr Mikao Usui
And I sat on the floor, holding these
incredible, resonating and beautiful words and I cried. I cried a lot and I
felt as I cried these tears, that I was releasing so many fears and letting go
of ‘stuff’ that I was carrying around with me. Yes I so wanted to let go of
anger, worry and I really wanted to be kind to everyone whilst going through my
divorce. I was so tired of hurting and
being so fearful, full of sadness and grief.
So what was I doing NOT giving myself
In the very action of giving oneself
Reiki I was acknowledging my worth as a kind, loving and respectful person. Giving Reiki to myself was the most fantastic
step in helping me feel calmer, more in control and empowered to let go of some
of the ‘stuff’ I was holding on to.
Children and Reiki
My children also totally love Reiki and
are amazingly receptive to it. If they are feeling upset, worried or they have
aches and pains I am able to use Reiki to help them. This is a most gorgeous gift a parent can give their children. It is incredibly bonding and stabilising as well for your
children to know you can help them in other ways to feel less anxious.
Get Trained Yourself...
Reiki is a great stress buster... The
treatment is relaxing, calming and the wonderful training I was given has been
invaluable during the last 18 months. If you can, try to find a local Reiki
teacher, get yourself on a Reiki course and learn too. There are so many courses
now around the country being held during the week and at weekends.
You then get to help all those
beautiful people around you feel great. Or,
if YOU just want a relaxing yet life energising treatment, find a therapist close by –
Reiki always makes me feel wonderfully sleepy. Having a Reiki trained
practitioner help to ease away worries and stress aches and pains connected to
your divorce….why would you not?
With love Natasha This was published as a guest blog for The Divorce Magazinewith grateful thanks...