Friday, 7 February 2014

4 WAYS TO GET YOUR DIVORCE GROOVE WORKING




SO.... here’s the bright, shiny and easy GROOVE...
 
It is NOT the bothersome and irritating muzac playing in the background, it’s the cool groove within your fantastical positive THINKING. You have to be committed to this GROOVE and it makes Separation and Divorce a whole lot EASIER to listen to.

So you can decide what is on your divorce play list…

THE OLD SKOOL PLAYLIST

You have the OPTION to play some real legalista, banging beats tunes. This legalistas are going to give you strobe lights, loud thumping tunes and you most probably will to have to return to that Club many times over. Could it be that you are guaranteed to come out of that Club after many hours with the biggest stress, anger induced and fearsome headache? Will it be the BIG one that makes you realise all other previous hangover thumping heads seemed like a spa treatment in comparison?

DIVORCE CLUB
Wishing you were as COOL AS, that you could become a seasoned Divorce Club regular without any of the downsides, really? Sure you can take lots of drugs which will dull the inevitable, make drug company shareholders HAPPY and these will prolong the agony before you are back in the angry Divorce Club pulling fancy moves on the dance floor in the HOPE of getting some attention.

Try loading, downloading or listening to some banging beat music. Listen to how your body reacts and begin if you don’t already, to UNDERSTAND how your mind starts feeling. You can feel CHARGED up and ready for anything, try it and let me know how you feel.
So let us UNDERSTAND and know there is a need for legal beats in our lives regarding separation and divorce, but we can opt for a more CONVIVIAL approach …. Could it be, the divorce tide is turning and there is a sweeter sounding, non-invasive and KINDER alternative?

MEDIATION MOVES

OK I am putting this out there. Mediation tunes, these are the smart FUTURE binaural beats or feel GOOD tunes, growing in popularity and really being SUPPORTED by the banging beat, Clubbing legalistas.

We are ABLE to download these tunes if we want to, they are easy to download, many legal practices are signing up and supporting these tunes, but just maybe there is part of us that doesn’t quite trust them yet.  Really, are there other ways to divorce other than heading into the scary, teeth gnashing expensive club land? Are we as a divorcing couples just not too sure about them yet.  BUT and here is the SECRET, we know and believe there is a really GOOD chance that the alternative will help RELIEVE separation and divorce stress. This help is out there to alleviate the emotional, physical and mental toll and finally the financial left hook bills that accompany, in racing chariots, negative divorces.
CHILL ZONE 
Instead of going to the Divorce Club and going stressfully mental… The big hearts that are YOU and your Ex can enter into the Mediation Chill Out zone, have a cup of whatever tea you wish for and know this isn’t going to give you a really big, mean headache. You can sit feeling SAFE and understand that this is not about the big divorce fight. It is about a FAMILY unit that has broken and you are here to work some of your good trusting heart and TLC into this process of “working through” the NEEDFUL in a supportive, positive and BALANCED environment.

IT IS ABOUT THE GOOD

Everyone and by EVERYONE, I mean YOU, your Ex and trained independent MEDIATORS, have seen the effects of mean divorces. There is nothing tummy warming, laughter giving or positive about negative, angry divorces. 

With Mediation, all who are present are here with HOPE and respect for a positive outcome of divorce, with the love we have for our brave selves, our beautiful children, families and friends and this is the real true GOOD. This is about what we can do to minimise any further arguing, aren't we all really done with arguing?  It is about sitting around a table talking - as hurting and fearful adults, who, somewhere along the way got caught up in something that has the capacity to grow with expediential ease into a whole big cloud of raging negativity and hate. 

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GIVE THIS CLOUD WHATEVER POSITIVE ENERGY YOU HAVE LEFT TO GROW ANY MORE MALCONTENT!  

Our own MEDIATORS and we were assigned two, due to the financial and fearful chaos cloud surrounding our existence, hang on a moment - we had two - for the fantastic price of one! How already SUPPORTIVE was that? We hadn’t even had a cup of tea and it was already FINANCIALLY making sense. ... our own Mediators were smiley, professional working Mums, my X and I both felt at ease.  We understood quite quickly that committing to this process was going to help us in ways that we never realised, trusted or understood exist in the divorce world.  We walked out of our first session and gave each other a hug in such relief at the support we had just experienced in that one first session.
 
GENTLE MUSIC

So here we all are in the Mediation chill out Club, because it is a positive, independent and non-confrontational way to try to help struggling couples. It is a supportive area for couples who really don’t much like pulling mean moves in the ego-centric, divorce, break dance arena. 
We want the easy, GENTLE beats and feel good MUSIC that helps us through the tough times of grief, sadness and disappointment, so easily felt in the separation and divorce world.  We want to know that when we walk out the Mediation door we can breathe a little easier and bid each other farewell respectfully.  It is warming to know that the rest of our day, week, month or year could be a whole lot less stressful and the tsunami of pain that accompanies divorce can seem a little easier to manage. 
Life is stressful enough without supercharging it. 
THE COLLABORATIVES
This is the process where you get to jam with the legalistas, these are the other respectful OPTIONS. Collaborative Law, which kind of reminds me, and forgive me Law Society, of a US film scenario with four people around a conference table high up in Manhattan heights.  
So it is YOU, your collaboratively trained lawyer, your Ex and his/her lawyer all working it out together and reaching a GOOD amicable outcome ... an AGREEMENT
This is full of the cool music magic too as the couple and their lawyers all make a commitment to this approach and thus avoiding court. Jamming is the GOOD too.
ARBITRATION
This is the private party, the divorcing couple with their own DJ....Your DJ is the independent arbitrator who makes the decisions about any disputes to do with property or financial issues. 
You want your DJ to play tunes you both like listening to and you kind of need to CHOOSE from too. Sometimes you just cannot make all the judgement calls or take responsibility for some of the big tough decisions lounging around waiting for direction so work with an ARBITRATOR.
 
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHOOSE WHAT IS GOING TO WORK FOR YOU AND YOUR PRECIOUS LIVES.  THE DECISION YOU MAKE ON HOW YOU PROCEED THROUGH THE DIVORCE PROCESS HAS TO WORK FOR YOU BOTH
KINDLY, RESPECTFULLY AND MINDFULLY
 
 
It is important to get independent legal advice on all aspects covered by this blog which is representative of my personal opinions only lovely folk.
With LOVE Xxxx

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